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Your vagina holds onto emotions

Sadussy to Happussy 

One of my viral videos on TikTok is about the vagina holding onto emotions. Someone duetted with me, sharing a joke on the sadussy that hit millions of views. In this article, we will explore all things sadussy to happusy for healing and reclamation of the vulva and vagina. 

There are many reasons why you may feel the feels when we discuss all things vulva. Feelings of shame, guilt, judgement, hopelessness, grief, fear, desire or anger arise when thinking about or being with your vagina, vulva or womb. In that case, it is likely because you have been through experiences that have threatened your survival, impacting your roots. 

This is why root healing is so important on a journey. We have to heal from our roots. Our roots are our pelvis. Or some people may refer to the pelvis as their root chakra. 

One of the most tangible and beneficial tools we can add to our healing toolbox for the pelvis is to learn how to work with fascia release touch in the vagina. Also known as vaginal massage, yoni massage or holistic pelvic care.

First, we must explore all things fascia chat to truly understand how the vagina does, in fact, hold a grudge. 

Your vagina is a fibromuscular tube (fascia) covered with vaginal epithelium (skin). Think of your fascia as a support system for the vagina. Your vaginal fascia is suspended, elevated and attached to the muscles and ligaments of your pelvis. It’s all very interconnected. 

Your fascia, however, is not just localised to your vagina. Your fascia was one weblike structure that became unified by the second week of your in-utero development as a foetus. This interconnected web will remain from top to toe for your entire life. It has been folded and refolded into this complex origami-like system, allowing you to do the basics all humans often take for granted, like eating, moving, standing and scrolling on ya phone. 

Fascia has been long ignored, cut through by surgeons to get to your muscles and bones. But your fascial system provides the environment for every cell in your body; it surrounds every single organ and then binds you to your shape, so you look like . . . a human being. 

Fascia, also known as connective tissue, is the largest organ in our body.

For a long time, fascia didn’t seem to bring much to the table, so we all heard about bones, muscles, skin and organs instead. 

However, now we are aware that our fascia contributes to our well-being. Healthy fascia has a springy, resilient, hydrated texture, allowing everything to function correctly. 

Muscles, joints, organs and nerves will all function well, thanks to A-OK fascia. The most superficial layer of fascia lies directly beneath the skin. 

If you press down on your arm now, you can press into the muscle; pressing hard enough, you may feel your bone. Relax the touch enough to feel just under the skin so you aren’t just touching your skin and you aren’t pressing into your muscle. That’s your fascia. 

Think of it like a webbing that your body is suspended in, like a bodysuit. 

Fascia that needs more love will hold onto cellular waste, emotional stress and trauma. It creates toxic environments within the body, with stiffness, inflammation or disease. Fascia can become dry and brittle. 

For example, when you feel an achy shoulder, as your whole body is linked, it may not be the shoulder that is the problem; the fascia may have become tight and meshed together further down your spine. 

Think of your fascia like clingfilm (Saran wrap if you’re American). Imagine it on top of water crumpled up. You want to begin to move it to become straight again without letting it sink. 

This is how it is to work with your fascia. 

Your vagina is made up of fascia. Your vagina may have been through challenges such as painful penetration, childbirth, hundreds of tampons, cup insertion, and dildos vibrating with strength. Yet, when our shoulders feel tight, we stretch our backs, move our necks, and massage our shoulders. When our vaginas have lost all vitality and the fascia is screaming for some love, we don’t bring in gentle touch as we would anywhere else.

We may feel enraged at the constant pain. We may buy dildos with more vibrational settings to actually feel something. We may ask for harder and deeper sex to feel some pleasure. We may use dilators and hope this opens up the root again. We may find ourselves with our third speculum inside our vagina within the last week while someone rustles around looking for a visible challenge. 

Fascia is 70 percent water with some proteins and proteoglycans. Water holds onto emotions, memories and experiences. Some scientists will say that’s bullshit, but it’s up to you what you choose to open your heart and mind to. There are plenty of scientists proving this is true. Your body holds onto emotions, challenges and traumas. This also has been proven many times. If water holds onto such memories and your fascia is 70 percent water, and your fascia is within your body, then it’s up to you how you marry this information together. 

If we have been through challenges with the vagina, we want to begin to excavate and move through what may be lying there. This looks like working with the fascia through fascia release touch to start to move, adjust and work with the space within the vagina. It’s similar to working with craniosacral therapy. 

When we begin to bring this touch, awareness and support to the vagina, it may bring up thoughts, feelings, memories or experiences. It’s an exceptionally clever and beautiful gift for yourself and your inner child, which deserves more love, mothering and support. 

You and the vagina have always deserved more. 

Naomi is a Vaginologist, educator, guide, speaker, and content creator. She is a highly qualified, nervous system-led, somatic-focused, root-healing mentor, guiding people back into connection with their wombs, vaginas and vulvas. Naomi works with clients by space holding, educating and guiding them with somatic touch to create a new narrative around traumatic events with the body, which create physical manifestations such as vulvodynia, vaginismus, period pains, endo and infertility. She also guides people through vagina readings. You can find Naomi’s website here:  www.thisisnaomigale.co.uk. She’s also on Instagram: @thisisnaomigale  Naomi is the author of In Your Vagina Lies the Key to Your Happiness. She lives in Margate, England, with her husband and three children (a result of IUI and IVF treatments).